Abhyanga: tandem, solo and self

Exploring the most powerful self care actions one can take, I immediately lead with SELF ABHYANGA!!

After I had my third child I had to take bed rest for a week and really focus on what it is that “I” needed to truly heal. After I was able to get back on my feet (literally and figuratively) I began the ancient practice of self abhyanga and it has been life changing!

Abhyanga is warm oil massage.

Self abhyanga is when a person applies warm oil to themselves and gives themselves a massage. You can get really specific with this or you can just do your best. In general, the routine of performing self abhyanga is a ritual which deserves a conscious administration. (I will create a post for just this in the near future :))

Before we go any further and explain Receiving abhyanga from a practitioner, let’s look at the wildly great benefits of practicing abhyanga on oneself or of receiving it from another….

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1. nourishes the nervous system (reduces anxiety)
2. nourishes the skin & prevents dehydration
3. soothes insomnia
4. nourishes the body and promotes confidence and stability (grounded-ness)
5. alleviates fatigue-rejuvenates and reduces stress from overworked body or mind
6. creates a protective shield around the body
7. creates electrochemical balance in the body
8. amplifies the immune system
9. increases longevity and reverse aging
10. supports healthy digestion

Receiving abhyanga as a treatment with one therapist:

Solo abhyanga has all of the same benefits as listed above. It is detoxifying and grounding. It helps balance out the Vata dosha, just as it does if you are doing it for your own personal routine or if you were to receive the tandem work. Receiving the abhyanga from another (versus your personal practice) takes the warm oil massage to new heights. The therapist can squeeze, flush and nurture your body in ways that are tricky to do on oneself. A big difference is how you are able to be in a Receptive state (versus an active and receptive state). Your receptive state allows you to go deeper into the parasympathetic state (this is the nervous system state where one feels relaxed and at ease versus in fight or flight). Your body is able to soak up all of the organic food grade oils for optimal nourishment. And the duration is close to an hour versus a quicker routine one has for oneself.

Receive abhyanga with two therapists:

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Tandem Abhyanga is also known as Mirror Massage or 4 handed massage. Mirror Massage is a bit more accurate for “4 handed massage” may or may not have the therapists mirroring one another’s actions. Whereas with Tandem Abhyanga the therapists do mirror one another for the majority of the session. This dual action has a profoundly balancing effect. It balances the hemisphere’s of the brain. It is considered a rasayana which means Rejuvenation. It is poetic and rhythmic. If you’re familiar with Ayurveda, Abhyanga is extremely balancing for the Vata dosha. Balancing out “vata” brings harmony to all of the other doshas as well, for vata is what moves everything through the body. If you’re not familiar with Ayurveda, Vata rules the air and space element. When it is out of balance a person experiences stress, anxiety, insomnia, bowel discomforts, dry skin, difficulty with focus, dizziness, an overall sense of being ‘out of it,’ and un-grounded.

Abhyanga is one of the best steps we can take to practice self care. Daily self abhyanga and then receiving from another on a consistent basis are guaranteed to bring profound shifts into your overall wellness! Working with a practitioner helps you determine what frequency is best for you. It is common to receive a solo or tandem session about once a month while practicing daily abhyanga. While some folks do better with receiving bi-weekly or even weekly. Each individual has different needs and ailments so take the time you need for your own well-being.

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Plan Ahead: The Path of Commitment.

We all know that COMMITMENT can be the missing ingredient in accomplishing our goals. It is necessary to maintain healthy relationships and that includes our relationship with our Self.

It’s a common phenomenon to have someone call for a bodywork session once things reach a peak point of aching or imbalance. Yet there are so many of us out there who really DO Maintain our wellness. This maintenance comes from a commitment to take care of ones self; and it can require some planning.


Many of our ‘healing success stories’ comes from clients who have committed to their healing journey. They listen to suggestions and to their inner selves so they can stay on track. This sometimes looks like coming more often for a bit, and other times people shift directly into a maintenance plan, where they can come once a month or so. Either way, it helps to book ahead. To plan out the best days/times/months to Receive-to take care of OneSelf.

Personally, I try to plan out my monthly Shirodhara and one other treatment, about a month in advance. There are times I plan out the next two or three months so that I GUARANTEE my time to receive what I need.

Clients who come on a regular basis and who plan ahead tend to be the ones who are really committed to their wellness. That ‘knowing’ of having their slot held, gives them peace of mind as well as solidifies their commitment to themselves. It may seem like ‘small stuff,’ but even those two components (peace of mind and telling your inner self you’re committed to YOU) can create a ripple effect and make the sessions even more powerful. It’s incredible to see how our subconscious affects our healing path, so it does make sense that those subtle actions create more strength and support for the journey.

On a personal note: I recently came upon a ‘new dilemma’ in my career. I (Crystal) have been opening up different hours for my regular clients so that I can still see new clients on my regular hours, and I am still booking out to February!! (It’s December 7th today). Pondering how to guarantee people to have slots and time with me has been on my mind. My thoughts have led to ‘how do I make sure I get care,’ which reminded me that I schedule things WEEKS in advance. I set the tone. I make it a Priority. I “Guarantee” my self care. Sometimes there are hiccups which derail this, but for the most part, it truly does guarantee that I get what I need to be the best me I can be for myself, my family and the world at large.

After coming to that realization and starting to write about it to share with all of you, I pulled an oracle card and it was the 1 of roses COMMITMENT. Mind Blown.

This card reiterates everything I was feeling. When I read cards I often just use what flows through me but on occasion I check out what ‘the book’ has to say and this particular card drew me to the book, which further extrapolated my feelings by saying:

It is a reminder to be conscious of your commitment
to yourself. If you want others to put you first or to help
bring happiness to your life, then you must commit to do
the same. Your self-honoring choices will set the groundwork
for all your partnerships to thrive.

So, I invite you to put yourself as a Priority. Plan It Out. Schedule your next few months of self care. COMMIT to it. The New Year is right around the corner as well-making it an even more perfect time to decide on actions that will benefit your greater good! Cheers to the New Year! Wishing you well during the holiday season <3 ~Crystal